As an entrepreneur, business owner or otherwise self-employed person, you need inspiring stories.
There are days when you will feel like it’s just too hard, or like nobody gets what you’re going through.
On those days, it’s important to fill yourself up with inspiring storylines. You need to be able to create a “the hero was in a pit of darkness, but fought the monsters and made it through” kind of narrative in your head.
- What is the pit of darkness you are in?
- What are the monsters you need to face?
- How will you keep putting one foot in front of the other to make it through?
If you can’t feel that deep sense of “I can make this happen”, then finding solutions is much much harder.
Finding solutions requires being able to put some of the fear aside. Doing that means you need access to a different feeling, a feeling of inspiration and a willingness to accept the challenge.
Maybe you’re lucky and you have friends or family who will tell you inspiring anecdotes to help give you a boost. Or maybe those are the exact people who will tell you to quit, have no idea what to say, who shake their head at you, or just don’t realise what the big deal is (“you’ll be fine, you always are”).
When you have no real-life inspiration stories, then novels and netflix can be a great source of getting your mojo back.
If clients feel better after talking to you, while you feel much worse. If you find yourself ruminating on your clients’ issues – even though you rationally know there is no point to this. If you sense what is up with someone before they walk through the door or pick up the phone… you may be more than simply “caring”.
Feeling called to help others often has to do with personal life experience. More so than that, you may find that you have always been “that person”. Even when you felt tired or lost or discouraged yourself, people still want to talk to you to share their troubles.
When you are able to shake off your client’s problems at the end of a session, then you’re ready to work with the next client. But what if you struggle to let go?
Being a professional, chances are you’ve tried all kinds of things. If despite setting boundaries, taking some time to clear your head and talking yourself out of worrying, you still find yourself “stuck” with a host of feelings and pains that don’t seem to be yours, it’s time to check whether more might be going on. Continue reading
Most new businesses fail. That’s what the statistics say, and that sounds really scary, doesn’t it?
Yet, I don’t think it’s as scary or mysterious as it seems.
Let me illustrate with some examples that popped up in a google search:
I’m currently working with a client on her marketing strategy – which is fun! And it made me realise something more clearly: When I help her understand what marketing is for her work, the nitty gritty rules are different than they are for me.
The content that would inform her potential clients will be different than mine. The rules on what best to include and what to leave out are different. Why?
Because her clients are different from mine, and they are in a different phase of their personal journey.
As service providers, we all help people with a particular stretch of their journey (and there isn’t just one journey, there are many!). When we are really dialed in to our work, our essence and our strength, then we also zoom in on a very specific problem that we help our clients with.
And those problems come with specific needs.
When you are self-employed, you need to make a healthy income doing what you do. Otherwise, your work is not sustainable and won’t last.
Many of your clients will understand this perfectly and not resent you for it. Yet, there will always be people who think that you “owe” them and who will contact you to let you know that what you are charging is wrong.
I think nowadays with all kinds of internet hypes and the ability to work from home, a lot of people feel a kind of hyped, fake pressure to turn their precious and healthy hobby into something more.
Suddenly, it’s not good enough to work on a project just for fun, as a creative outlet, or as an escape.
Suddenly it’s not good enough to be a parent full-time because since you are at home, you might as well work from home too, right?
Yet, here is one essential thing to consider about turning something fun into something lucrative:
Energy congruency means that if you say you are all about something and that you help people with this thing, you make sure you are that person in your personal life too. And if you’re not, you do something about it.
This means you need to be serious about what you choose to promote yourself as.
There are a great many reasons to become self-employed and also a great many reasons not to. There are already many articles out there promoting the ideal of self-employment. I want to add some reality checks too to make sure being self-employed doesn’t start to sound like magic faery land.
Don’t do it if…
Full disclosure: I’m an empath. That means I am ridiculously aware of the emotions and thoughts of people I interact with – whether up close or at a distance.
It is no longer a source of overwhelm like it used to be, because I am now trained at handling this (and I train other empaths how to handle this too). Nevertheless, when someone gets nasty, it’s still a big blow and I need my tools to not just “rationally” deal with the situation, but also deal with the energy bombs that some people like throwing around.
If you’re sensitive to energy, you’ll recognise this, although you may not be able to put your finger on it exactly.
This is why the best productivity tools are the ones that force you to split up big goals into tiny doable steps.
Doable means that it’s clear what you need to do and it’s possible to do it.
Here are 2 ways to make sure your tasks are doable: